tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4303151534936754319.post1320432867115040071..comments2023-11-02T09:01:46.960-04:00Comments on the laid.back buddhist: On Regretting NotJoannehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17631567501485214482noreply@blogger.comBlogger21125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4303151534936754319.post-78579706308574994512007-10-25T10:50:00.000-04:002007-10-25T10:50:00.000-04:00Chrissyjo: Thank you! Well, I am happy now, just w...Chrissyjo: Thank you! Well, I am happy now, just with the occasional blues. Hahaha, I like that way of thinking that if everything turned out fine in the long run, the things previously "wrong" were actually needed and good! =)Joannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17631567501485214482noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4303151534936754319.post-45089053621910323782007-10-25T09:49:00.000-04:002007-10-25T09:49:00.000-04:00Congrats on your blog, it really is wonderful. Don...Congrats on your blog, it really is wonderful. Don't waste time regretting. I used to regret things a lot and think I did things wrong but they lead me to the great place I am at now, so maybe I did everything right? Who knows.. hope you get happy again soon :) .ChrissyJohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04105136080054487884noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4303151534936754319.post-79326560236049875822007-10-23T02:32:00.000-04:002007-10-23T02:32:00.000-04:00Bobby: Haha, I do know that saying very well. Alt...Bobby: Haha, I do know that saying very well. Although I have been known to call the author of that saying a lunatic when nursing a broken heart, lols! I think I give 2 different kinds of trusts. Like, I can trust others, and even if I’m just getting know the person, very easily…up to a certain point. Then there’s this more guarded wall that’s in place...to protect the more vulnerable trust? Not sure if that makes sense, I’m still in the midst of figuring out how it works myself.<BR/><BR/>Lisa: Aw, thank you. When I started making friends within the blogosphere, I did feel initial hesitation in keeping up with the same emotionally raw posts. But trying to censor myself (lols) makes my writing read like absolute crap, haha.<BR/><BR/>Meleah: Thanks!!! I’m relieved to hear I’m not the only one who can see a relationship can be doomed from the start. My intuition makes it hard if I also intuitively know I can’t change what I feel or that all my actions are <I>based</I> on my feelings, hah. <BR/><BR/>Nola: Wow, I really like that thought! It really does makes sense to see our collective experience as continuous stages of different emotional levels. Reminds me of human developmental theories. Haha, I like to think that if I were to face a same issue, I’d have a broader spectrum of reactions to choose to respond with. Thanks for your support for my writing! =)Joannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17631567501485214482noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4303151534936754319.post-72015573363024035642007-10-22T21:50:00.000-04:002007-10-22T21:50:00.000-04:00I once read that life is a spiral--you keep facing...I once read that life is a spiral--you keep facing the same challenges but at different emotional stages of development. So with each one, you get something more from it and continue to grow. But that doesn't mean the same issue won't trigger a challenge to you the next time you face it.<BR/><BR/>I am happy you have no regrets--and happy you blog about your life. Very good, strong writing. Thanks for it!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4303151534936754319.post-22319466532025308122007-10-22T19:19:00.000-04:002007-10-22T19:19:00.000-04:00Congrats on the 7 months!I do not regret anything ...Congrats on the 7 months!<BR/><BR/>I do not regret anything either...not a single word in a single post...<BR/><BR/>NOR do I regret any of my failed relationships. Doomed from the start or not.<BR/><BR/>I believe everyone comes in and out of our lives for a reason.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4303151534936754319.post-17879073704481035352007-10-22T11:51:00.000-04:002007-10-22T11:51:00.000-04:00Congratulations on your 118th! I find it really ad...Congratulations on your 118th! I find it really admirable that you can lay it all out here. I'm having issues writing about things that matter on my blog.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4303151534936754319.post-37752143897125477192007-10-22T04:36:00.000-04:002007-10-22T04:36:00.000-04:00I agree there is a certain appeal in not knowing. ...I agree there is a certain appeal in not knowing. There is a fine line between playful mystery and childish behavior.<BR/><BR/>I trust easier than I care to admit. I might be mushy but will not stick around to prolong misery!<BR/><BR/>As much heartache as I've been through, I wouldn't trade it. I have definetly loved. You know the old saying...It's better to have loved...Bobby Revellhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05225540511858755945noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4303151534936754319.post-16166400000393768872007-10-21T18:26:00.000-04:002007-10-21T18:26:00.000-04:00Bobby: I think there’s a certain appeal in not kno...Bobby: I think there’s a certain appeal in not knowing as you get to know a person, that whole dating phase can be exciting (while completely nerve-racking), but I 100% agree that feelings are not to be toyed with…I disapprove of mixed signals where words don’t match up with actions or leading someone on. You are right on to call it “high school,” it is very much so! Hm, I’ve a habit of trusting too much…my personal philosophy is that everyone has my trust until they lose it (second chances may be given, and third chances are rare) and the people have my trust are given more as I get to know them more and more. This results in me being burned a lot, but I’ve been given so many beautiful friendships, there’s no other way I’d rather live.<BR/><BR/>Wow, that was a much longer comment than I intended it to be, lols!Joannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17631567501485214482noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4303151534936754319.post-26045169108125134432007-10-21T18:01:00.000-04:002007-10-21T18:01:00.000-04:00So many people (men and women) are into highchool ...So many people (men and women) are into highchool dating "games" like "keep 'em guessing" etc.<BR/><BR/>I have never been much of a game player. I will never regret telling anyone how I feel.<BR/><BR/>Almost ever relationship I have ever had ended with her going for a brainless goon who wouldn't even say she was pretty unless she cried and begged.<BR/><BR/>I am a mushy, very romantic guy! I will not change that for anyone.<BR/><BR/>I have played the game and avoided telling someone I liked them. Sometimes they fish for it and I break down and say it. That's usually the day the relationship ends.<BR/><BR/>Wow...it is almost impossible for me to trust. I live with a severely broken heart and it is what I struggle with every SINGLE day:)Bobby Revellhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05225540511858755945noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4303151534936754319.post-81240073081255408402007-10-21T17:34:00.000-04:002007-10-21T17:34:00.000-04:00Holly: Thank you, for the congratulations on my ad...Holly: Thank you, for the congratulations on my addiction, lols! And you know, that’s the same philosophy I adhere to…and also, if I see meaning in something that has happened for a reason, I figure I should pay attention to that as well.<BR/><BR/>Chessnoid: Maybe because I have really good intuition like that ;) It is a pretty sad chapter in my life.<BR/><BR/>Susie: Yeah, email is a good form of keeping in touch and haha, I’ve found blogging useful for way more stuff that I ever imagined! Love it, thanks =)<BR/><BR/>Aryst: LOL, “a bit more”? That’s a heck of a lot more postings than me, haha, probably because the first two months I barely posted. And then, starting in May, blogging went on an explosion of sorts!<BR/><BR/>Kath: Exactly. I like where I am right now, and that took pain and joys to get to this point. I wouldn’t want to go through it twice (hence, learn the lesson right the first time), but I’m glad they happened regardless for what it’s worth. Your perspective comment reminded me of Tom in Becoming Jane: “You must widen…your horizons.” ;) LOLs!<BR/><BR/>Peter: How do you understand so well? I’d be lost without my intuition…<BR/><BR/>Derick: I like the analogy. Haha, I don’t know if all the decisions I’ve made in the past have been the “best” per se, but at least I knew it was a choice I wouldn’t regret when I looked back! =)<BR/><BR/>Rolando: Hahaha, I’ve thought about that, too. But then, I think if I started at a different time, EVERYTHING would be different. I would’ve met different people, my writing would’ve been different a couple of years ago (and hence attracted different sorts of readers)…I might not have gotten so addicted, who knows? <BR/><BR/>David: It’s true to never <I>dwell</I> on our regrets because that stagnates us, but I think it also takes courage to acknowledge defeat when we recognize it. It’s like knowing when to ask for help when we need it instead of denying or pretending we don’t need it.<BR/><BR/>YC: LOLs, there should be a word of 4 times, I think…I’ll have to ask my English major friend, haha. Very wise words there…it’s like they say, we learn history in order not to repeat the past!<BR/><BR/>Sabrina: Haha, I don’t mind bad English…I grew up in part in the south anyhow! LOLs, most of them are our own causing, why else would we learn to pay attention to them otherwise? ;)Joannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17631567501485214482noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4303151534936754319.post-45432181375121345582007-10-21T14:30:00.000-04:002007-10-21T14:30:00.000-04:00On old country song made perfect sense to me one d...On old country song made perfect sense to me one day in the lyric..."there ain't no future in the past...", pardon the bad english, but it is country after all, lol.<BR/><BR/>Since that time I've lived and walked through many tribulations, some of my own causing, well most really, but that's beside the point. I agree that if you learn from it, then it's not really a mistake, it was a learning experience - just a little rougher.<BR/><BR/>Life is too short to live looking in the rear view.MouthGirl.comhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14574564359389260689noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4303151534936754319.post-80599788912765820452007-10-21T05:59:00.000-04:002007-10-21T05:59:00.000-04:00Congrats Joanne! :)I think twice, thrice and maybe...Congrats Joanne! :)<BR/><BR/>I think twice, thrice and maybe 4 times (is there a word for that) before I make some critical decisions - because I've made loads of dud ones. That doesn't mean I twiddle my fingers and toes over it.<BR/><BR/>Sometimes tho', sometimes, I still feel a tiny tinge of regret. I am no Superman going through life saying hey look at me I am the toughest sonofabi**h hurtling my way through life and only look forward.<BR/><BR/>I still need to look back sometimes, in order to move forward.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4303151534936754319.post-73941660574285702112007-10-21T00:11:00.000-04:002007-10-21T00:11:00.000-04:00Never regret, for it means acknowledging defeat. A...Never regret, for it means acknowledging defeat. And grats on your 118th post!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4303151534936754319.post-23493683087490396392007-10-20T23:35:00.000-04:002007-10-20T23:35:00.000-04:00My only regret is that I didn't start blogging son...My only regret is that I didn't start blogging sonner. Dang.<BR/><BR/>Congrats on your 118 posts Joanne! You've got my vote!Rolandohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07642951516035122957noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4303151534936754319.post-83607743418591036352007-10-20T16:47:00.000-04:002007-10-20T16:47:00.000-04:00hi joanne,regrets are a waste of energy--when one ...hi joanne,<BR/>regrets are a waste of energy--when one makes a decision it is based on the available facts at that time --- so it should be the best decision.<BR/>it is of no use later just because you found out something new that you now have a regret.<BR/>life should be up close and personal and not being the passenger in one's own life.<BR/>making mistakes is good--that is the learning curve.<BR/>assimilate the experience and when you are ready move on<BR/><BR/>congrats on anniversary of blog<BR/>it is in your blood now<BR/>take carederickhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11219345759621337172noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4303151534936754319.post-7328774982377239732007-10-20T16:01:00.000-04:002007-10-20T16:01:00.000-04:00Go to where your heart and mind tell you to go. Li...Go to where your heart and mind tell you to go. Life's only regret you have to worry about, is the one where you fail to follow your instinct.<BR/><BR/>Regards<BR/>PeterPeterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12097919387041286154noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4303151534936754319.post-64529428184290420512007-10-20T11:11:00.000-04:002007-10-20T11:11:00.000-04:00Congratulations on 7 months!A guy once said to me,...Congratulations on 7 months!<BR/><BR/>A guy once said to me, "no regrets. f*ck regrets. There's nothing you can do to change the past, so there's no point worrying about it."<BR/><BR/>He didn't quite understand my need to think about things in order to overcome them, but I realized in the end that his regretless philosophy was fundamentally a good one. Ironically, he later became one of those things I'd think back on and decide I didn't regret, despite the heartache...<BR/><BR/>What I mean to say is that It hink every experience is important, because it gives us not only knowledge but perspective. I don't want to be the naive person I was two years ago. She'd annoy the hell out of me. It was worth the pain to get to where I am now...a little more adult, a little more cynical, and a little more prepared to face the next speedbump.<BR/><BR/>*biiiiigggg hug (rough night)*Katherinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16280577990336979012noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4303151534936754319.post-7242117460737895122007-10-20T03:06:00.000-04:002007-10-20T03:06:00.000-04:00Our blog has the same anniversary...my blog also 7...Our blog has the same anniversary...my blog also 7 months already and I posted more than 200 entry, a bit more than you...and I can relate to your story becoz I've been through situation like you also...anyway, congrats on your blog anniversary...Arysthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16498803845453794593noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4303151534936754319.post-53305787858920893742007-10-20T02:17:00.000-04:002007-10-20T02:17:00.000-04:00I started blogging 3 years ago to get over an infa...I started blogging 3 years ago to get over an infatuation. I was so infatuated with a person and I knew it was infatuation and not the real thing. Blogging helped me, I got over it and I still once in a while email with the person I had a crush on. Blogging is good for many different things :)<BR/><BR/>Congrats on the 7 months blog anniversary!Susiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17414051613296770844noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4303151534936754319.post-908590637659479932007-10-19T23:22:00.000-04:002007-10-19T23:22:00.000-04:00Hi Joanne,I missed something. Why is it ending be...Hi Joanne,<BR/>I missed something. Why is it ending before you guys began?? It sounds like a sad love story. :(<BR/><BR/>Congratulations on 7 months of blogging! Cheers! ;)CHESSNOIDhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11249317816441964678noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4303151534936754319.post-91560865825827390272007-10-19T23:02:00.000-04:002007-10-19T23:02:00.000-04:00Congratulations on the 118th post, you really ARE ...Congratulations on the 118th post, you really ARE addicted to blogging. :P<BR/><BR/>I find it's easiest to regret memories...But then you're left mulling it over and driving yourself mad and it isn't fair to the person you were before you realized the fact that you regret it. I don't like making my past self feel inadequate so a life lesson in itself is to live with no regrets. Everything happens for a reason--and that reason is to learn and go on living.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com