tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4303151534936754319.post4621534398628210876..comments2023-11-02T09:01:46.960-04:00Comments on the laid.back buddhist: Boys & GirlsJoannehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17631567501485214482noreply@blogger.comBlogger18125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4303151534936754319.post-21750819800786168902007-10-31T02:15:00.000-04:002007-10-31T02:15:00.000-04:00Mike: Yeah, I was pretty shocked when the guy expe...Mike: Yeah, I was pretty shocked when the guy expected me to take that as a compliment. It's tongue-in-cheek and an insult on multiple levels...though it did make me give pause to ethnic stereotypes and perceptions once again. Hiding does make it harder to confront, but when bias is expressed differently we just have to battle and break it down differently as well. Time's a'changing, always...like many things, it's a double-edged sword. Off to check out that post!!! =)Joannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17631567501485214482noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4303151534936754319.post-55630353775824988132007-10-30T20:35:00.000-04:002007-10-30T20:35:00.000-04:00Political correctness hide what some people really...Political correctness hide what some people really think, in my view. Thats why some people may think that all of the old problems aren't "current issues." <BR/><BR/>In my view, the problems are not gone, though they may be not as bad, but are certainly in many instance hidden. <BR/><BR/>"look real good for an Asian" I don't understand how anyone could think that would be a compliment. Of course, you said he was drunk... but still.<BR/><BR/>There was a girl when I was going to college who had a knack for uttering profound stupidities. Your post has reminded me of her. I wrote one story about her last week:<BR/>http://exit78.com/weblog/funny-monday-college-humor-a-true-storyAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4303151534936754319.post-85128157021114379132007-10-28T20:56:00.000-04:002007-10-28T20:56:00.000-04:00Dan: No problem, I wasn’t quite sure so I asked =)...Dan: No problem, I wasn’t quite sure so I asked =)<BR/><BR/>Lisa: Haha, yeah, age can sometimes be a flimsy excuse when there are people younger than her who come off as more mature. <BR/><BR/>Zesty: LOLs! Ohh, jeez that has got to be one of my favorite comments, <I><B>ever</I></B>. My pet peeve in class are people talking loudly in the row behind me with lots of “oh, my god!” and “like, really.” It gets so bad that I physically get up…and move 4 seats down (instead turning around and saying, “Just the tone of your voice makes my IQ drop 20 points!” I think the main reason it bothers me is because it’s in a classroom setting and I’m trying to focus on what my professor is saying.<BR/><BR/>Chris: Ooh, k. Will check it out. =) Yeah, I thought the first time it happened it was just some fluke, but the fact that more than one person subscribes to such an impression raises my eyebrow.<BR/><BR/>Mcgee: Tiramisu is right up there with cheesecake, pumpkin pie, and fruit tarts on my list of favorite cake desserts….mmm… Anyhow, I have the rest of the semester to see what other crazy things will come out of this girl’s mouth.<BR/><BR/>Dermot: Yeah, I think it’s that shift which has become the biggest battle. It’s natural for ever upcoming generation to break away from old, traditional ideals…but sometimes, biases are passed down and solidified through the generations. The going is slow and progress IS continuously made, but by no means would I call it equal for everyone, if even possible.<BR/><BR/>Meleah: Def. agreed. Unfortunately, unless that girl has an epiphany of sorts…political correctness will probably only serve to help her hide her true feelings better.<BR/><BR/>Johnny: Yeah, some parts of tactfulness is learned from experience and other parts depend on the individual.<BR/><BR/>Abbagirl: I LOVE the way you expressed your thinking! I always wonder at why people chose to view differences as a bad thing…I mean, in ALL other cases (team-work, evolutionary mating, competitive pricing), having differences is perceived as a GOOD things…so why don’t we apply it to ourselves, as people, you know? Thanks so much for sharing your thoughts =)<BR/><BR/>Kyla: I sure hope so as well! Everyone is entitled to their own opinion, and you’re right, an university setting is a great environment for a clashing and meshing of ideas and opinions.<BR/><BR/>Cooper: M’hm, that and people who chose to think above the reality. I can’t tell what her agenda is exactly or whether she is truly so naively dogmatic. Probably a bit of both. But I’m not out to make every person in my class or university agree with me (as I’m against doing anything remotely fascist myself), but I certainly will make my disapproval known when naivety borders on idiocy. <BR/><BR/>Thira: True, that reminds me of the cliché “ignorance is bliss.” Sometimes I wonder if that’s why people chose to remain that way because if they can’t confront the possibility of being wrong…?<BR/><BR/>Erina: Can I just say how much I adore your comments? Okay, I do. ADORE ‘em, <I>completely</I>.Joannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17631567501485214482noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4303151534936754319.post-25978394413153621062007-10-26T12:43:00.000-04:002007-10-26T12:43:00.000-04:00Classes always seem to have that one student that ...Classes always seem to have that one student that is oblivious to the world. Perhaps they go home, skipping the entire way, and craw into their watercolor painted dome where TVs only play fantasy and books are scribbled with chalk. If only there were a window to let in a bit of light. Or a front door, fastened with a cheese-grater screen, that allows the hum of helicopters and the scream of sirens to leak into their poppy pleasure utopia.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4303151534936754319.post-21621806879203620552007-10-25T02:28:00.000-04:002007-10-25T02:28:00.000-04:00Narrow-minded people makes this world a suffocatin...Narrow-minded people makes this world a suffocating place to live.And they are only doing damage to themselves because in speaking out their narrow minded thoughts they are letting people know how limited their understanding of the world they live in really is.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4303151534936754319.post-88581562756896024252007-10-24T23:54:00.000-04:002007-10-24T23:54:00.000-04:00She obviously has an agenda - many of us do and we...She obviously has an agenda - many of us do and we carry it with us wherever we go. <BR/><BR/>I think people are naive but it is usually people who have never experienced racism, ageism, sexism, who tell us there is no such thing any longer.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4303151534936754319.post-71831481081327019702007-10-24T23:22:00.000-04:002007-10-24T23:22:00.000-04:00One of the best things that can come from universi...One of the best things that can come from university education is the ability to have articulate arguments for the things we believe in and against the things we believe should change.<BR/><BR/>By this post I'd say you're going to be doing really well this year! = )<BR/><BR/>People can harbor strange ideas - I'm glad she's in your class. That she says these things out loud puts them up for debate, and maybe her ideas will open themselves up to some self doubt by the end of the year.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4303151534936754319.post-24256745959176568102007-10-24T22:34:00.000-04:002007-10-24T22:34:00.000-04:00equality and egalitarianism are all a big lie! i'...equality and egalitarianism are all a big lie! i'm starting to think there is no way we all can be considered and treated equally at all because we all <I>are</I> different, whether because of age, sex, gender identity, or whatever. all of us are inherently <I>un</I>equal in some way or another.<BR/><BR/>so i've got no problems with being "different," per se. but it's only when others use these perceived "differences" as a basis for treating me differently than they would "normal" people and put the onus on me to prove that i'm as "american" or "white" as they are. like ugh! what a way to get on my bad side! :-P<BR/><BR/>anyway, enjoy the tiramisu -- and good luck on getting that blog award! i'll vote for you!<BR/><BR/>--abbagirlabbagirlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10431864034854431367noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4303151534936754319.post-4832800208568097322007-10-24T21:18:00.000-04:002007-10-24T21:18:00.000-04:00some people just do not know when to speak, what t...some people just do not know when to speak, what to speakJohnny Onghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06368538590359769938noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4303151534936754319.post-22850463666434548022007-10-24T18:50:00.000-04:002007-10-24T18:50:00.000-04:00Political Correctness, is just a way for people to...Political Correctness, is just a way for people to mask what they are really thinking or or feeling. <BR/><BR/>I have to agree with dermot.<BR/><BR/>But that girl is an idiot.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4303151534936754319.post-1884073745402784132007-10-24T18:23:00.000-04:002007-10-24T18:23:00.000-04:00All the pc-ness in the world doesn't change the wa...All the pc-ness in the world doesn't change the way people think, it just tries to stop them saying it in polite company (most of the time).<BR/><BR/>Changing people's attitudes takes time, decades, even generations...<BR/><BR/>In the meantime, we'll all have to suffer other people's smallmindedness.<BR/><BR/>(And you do look real good for an Asian, especially when compared to 80-year old Asian women, those octognenarians don't stand a chance!)Dermothttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05991497336172767477noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4303151534936754319.post-39255424671512773182007-10-24T15:45:00.000-04:002007-10-24T15:45:00.000-04:00i can't believe that girl actually said that. it'...i can't believe that girl actually said that. it's sad the number of people out there that are so ignorant.<BR/><BR/>p.s. i haven't had tiramisu in ages...enjoy it!mcgeehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17328357884166258893noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4303151534936754319.post-57086119527356388712007-10-24T13:48:00.000-04:002007-10-24T13:48:00.000-04:00completely offtopic here, but I wanted to let you ...completely offtopic here, but I wanted to let you know I finally have lived up to my being tagged for blog promotion tips and the post will be up Friday. :)<BR/><BR/>On-topic: I think that while it is pretty odd for someone to say that, I think it is more surprising some people think the world is an equal place in 2007. Yah right. <BR/><BR/>Go BC! (Native New Englander and lover of all Boston sports teams. Hell even our soccer team is in the playoffs!)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4303151534936754319.post-70742162703952578992007-10-24T12:15:00.000-04:002007-10-24T12:15:00.000-04:00That post was very well-written (for an Asian).I'm...That post was very well-written (for an Asian).<BR/><BR/><BR/><BR/>I'm kidding, of course (sarcasm can be so hard to pull off in a text-only medium). I get so incredibly frustrated with stupid people in my classes always saying stupid things and asking stupid questions. Sometimes I can feel my eyeballs starting to roll back into my head in what is surely an effort by my retinas to not have to look at the person in question, lest I somehow become infected with their ignorance via an ocular channel. So I have to take a deep breath and roll them forward while trying to make sure I don't stand up and stab the person in question in the neck with my mechanical pencil. "YOU LIKE THAT?!" <I>*click click click click click*</I><BR/><BR/>And I'm not even a violent person.snacknutshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16177934208976588752noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4303151534936754319.post-68334467986300915462007-10-24T10:22:00.000-04:002007-10-24T10:22:00.000-04:00That girl needs a good talking to. Being a freshma...That girl needs a good talking to. Being a freshman is not a good enough excuse for her. I only hope if/when she graduates, she'd have learned a thing or two.<BR/><BR/>And oh, how the <I>you look real good for an Asian</I> bit grated on my nerves. Vanity is obviously my favorite sin.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4303151534936754319.post-44640769862784654982007-10-24T02:14:00.000-04:002007-10-24T02:14:00.000-04:00I meant that there's a potential blog post in that...I meant that there's a <I>potential</I> blog post in that one... Sorry for the confusion!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4303151534936754319.post-5690326793610204652007-10-24T01:59:00.000-04:002007-10-24T01:59:00.000-04:00Dan: ...link? =)Dan: ...link? =)Joannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17631567501485214482noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4303151534936754319.post-83881654744608728962007-10-24T01:52:00.000-04:002007-10-24T01:52:00.000-04:00Or when I go downtown with the girls and some drun...<I>Or when I go downtown with the girls and some drunk guy thinks he’s successfully hitting on me by saying that I “look real good for an Asian.”</I><BR/><BR/>There's a blog post in that one that would cover the concepts of perception and stereotypes, primarily how three different possible environments play a role in your understanding and recognition of race and/or ethnicity.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com