Yet another sleepless night due to jet-lag for me.
Not having my Mon/Wed classes anymore is seriously screwing yours truly over. So, I’m not lacking in sleep and in fact, I’ve never slept MORE in this unsuccessful effort to get myself onto the right cycle (as if there’s one for college students?!).
I’ll be depending on some real strong black coffee to save my sanity today because I have a full day of classes AND the trio (Kath & Vy) plans on going to see Enchanted tonight. Hope I make it, I’m a big Disney fan. If not through sheer will, the prospect of melting into heaps over Patrick Dempsey's twinkling eyes ought to guarantee it.
In the meantime, let’s talk vacation.
Coming back from break, I feel different—
Sort of like how you don’t see any physical change in yourself because you look into the mirror every day and it’s the same face staring back atcha. Often for me, it’ll take photos from a year or two ago to fully realize how all the minor changes added up…and changed ME.
But this time, I’m not talking about looking but feeling different.
I think this family trip to the other side of the world made me realize that a part of me had been unhappy not just from nursing a broken heart, but also because I wasn’t quite comfortable with being single again.
It’s hard for me to admit that. And, to be completely honest, I can probably only admit it now because I am A-OK with it.
Well, no…as I was “okay” with it these past 7 months or so. It’s more that I’m finally happy for it.
YES, there’s a difference.
Has to be. Because like I said, I feel different and I think it has something to do with this undone knot that had been twisting itself sore in my heart. The realization came from an epiphany that all the bewilderment I’m causing my relatives at being single doesn’t annoy me or embarrass me in the least.
It amuses me!
And if truth be told, I even think I’m some kind of flattered...
1. The first relative to ask about my love life over Thanksgiving break: my dearest grandaunt. The lady’s a hardcore Buddhist and loves me like one of her granddaughters (actually, her decided preference for me makes it hard to be truly close to her real granddaughters, my cousins).
Always a ripe straight-shooter, she pulled me aside one morning to ask, “Do you have a boyfriend yet?”
My sheepish smile turns into an indulgent grin as she gives her head a quick shake and makes a really cute series of clucking disapproval.
“Don’t worry, Ah-Ma,” I call her the Taiwanese version of grandmother because growing up that’s what I heard my cousins calling her and it
stuckalways felt right to continue to do so, “When I do have a boyfriend, I’ll take him back to see you. For you to see how great he is, okay?”
She responds with some more disapproving clucks before finally giving in to my smiles.
2. The second to ask was my favorite uncle. Even after all these years, I still can’t get over the fact that everyday people of Taiwan will know his name and recognize him on the streets of Taipei.
“Soo, Joanne. Do you have a boyfriend?” It’s a question he always asks every time I see him.
“Nope.” And, it’s the same answer he always gets.
“Now, are you just saying that because your parents are sitting here?”
I laugh at the way he’s grinning at me. “There really isn’t a boyfriend in the picture.”
He proceeds to give me a look saying that he thinks I’m lying before changing the topic.
3. Third (and last, I lucked out because I didn’t get to see my 4th/3rd/2nd aunts this time) were my godmothers. Yes, my sister and I have 2. They are my mom’s college friends and they’re friggin’ hilarious.
“No? Really?!” She exclaims as I chuckle over my bowl of really good Japanese rice.
I nod and offer a half-shrug.
“Or is it because kids these days have different definitions for boyfriends? You might not think so, but it might mean boyfriend to us.”
My mind briefly flashes with an image of my former lover.
At this point, my mom interjects the conversation, “Joanne won’t bring a guy home until it’s time to go to the altar.” She purses her lips while giving me a meaningful look of displeasure, “When she should BEFORE then to let her wiser parents take a look at him. She’s so protective! It’s not like I would chew the boy to shreds.”
Raising an amused right eyebrow, I call her out, “Oh, mom. You know you so would!”
She picks up her chopsticks to continue eating, “Well, only if he deserved it and couldn’t hold his own. If he was a good boy, there isn't anything to worry about, is there?”
She makes a valid point.